I don’t know if I should be concerned at this point or not. My eldest son walks around in circles and talks to himself. He seems to be trying to figure things out. When I ask what he is doing, he will reply “Nothing” and leave the room. He has been doing this for many years. I thought he would grow out of it. He doesn’t have any friends and walks around the school yard with his Ipod plugged into his ears. He does spend alot of time on his computer and watching YouTube. I encourage him to invite friends over, but that only happens on his birthday – and not everyone shows up. I have spoken to his teachers and guidance counsellor about my concerns, but have not received any feedback. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
The behaviors you mention could be symptomatic of a serious problem or they could be normal variations.
There is a huge range of personalities that are normal. Some people are quite sociable and others like to spend time alone. The most important factor to determine how much to worry is how his behavior is preventing him from succeeding in growing up. If he is succeeding in school, fits into his family and not limited in his activities by anxiety or depression, there is less to worry about.
There are three things I would suggest:
- Continue to try and link with his school.
- Have a chat with his doctor. He or she may want to see him to do an assessment.
- Encourage him to follow his interests. Is he interested in games such as chess, or some sport or some other activity? Help him find a club at school, or the community centre, that can help him pursue his passion.